purpose of Al-Anon Family Groups

The Al-Anon Family Groups are a fellowship of relatives and friends of alcoholics who share their experience, strength and hope in order to solve their common problems. We believe alcoholism is a family illness and that changed attitudes can aid recovery.

Al-Anon is not allied with any sect, denomination, political entity, organization or institution; does not engage in any controversy, neither endorses nor opposes any cause. There are no dues for membership. Al-Anon is self-supporting through its own voluntary contributions.

Al-Anon has but one purpose: to help families of alcoholics. We do this by practicing the Twelve Steps, by welcoming and giving comfort to families of alcoholics, and by giving understanding and encouragement to the alcoholic.

Membership in an Al-Anon Family Group and regular attendance at meetings has shown us new ways to deal with our problems. We have found friends who understand. We have become part of a constructive program to achieve personal fulfillment and a new way of life. In Al-Anon we seek to improve ourselves. We learn that our growth and serenity depend on neither criticizing nor condemning the alcoholic's or anyone else's shortcomings.

Strict avoidance of gossip preserves group unity and protects the anonymity of our members, their loved ones and those of Alcoholics Anonymous. Our program is spiritual but not religious.

 Al-Anon: Is It For You?

Millions of people are affected by the excessive drinking of someone close to them. The following 20 questions are designed to help you decide whether or not you need Al-Anon:

  1. Do you worry about how much someone else drinks?
  2. Do you have money problems because of someone else's drinking?
  3. Do you tell lies to cover up for someone else's drinking?
  4. Do you feel that if the drinker loved you he or she would stop drinking?
  5. Do you think the drinker's behavior is caused by his or her companions?
  6. Are routines frequently upset or meals delayed because of the drinker?
  7. Do you make threats such as, "If you don't stop drinking, I'll leave you?"
  8. When you kiss the drinker hello, do you secretly try to smell his or her breath?
  9. Are you afraid to upset someone for fear it might set off a drinking bout?
  10. Have you been hurt or embarrassed by a drinker's behavior?
  11. Does it seem as if every holiday is spoiled because of drinking?
  12. Have you considered calling the police for help because you feared physical abuse?
  13. Do you find yourself searching for hidden liquor?
  14. Do you often ride in a car with a driver who has been drinking?
  15. Have you refused social invitations out of fear or anxiety?
  16. Do you sometimes feel like a failure when you think of the lengths you have gone to control the drinker?
  17. Do you think, "If the drinker stops drinking, all of my other problems will be solved?"
  18. Do you ever threaten to hurt yourself to scare the drinker?
  19. Do you feel angry, depressed most of the time?
  20. Do you feel that there is no one who understands your problems?

If you answered "yes" to three or more of these questions, then Al-Anon or Alateen may help.